ANOLENE THANGAVELU PILLAYHaven’t we all, at some point encountered someone who seems distant, aloof or unreachable? Someone who despite our best efforts remains a mystery leaving us wondering what lies beneath their reserved exterior. We’ve all been there – trying to connect with someone who seems to be hiding behind a veil of mystery leaving us feeling puzzled, frustrated or even hurt. What if we’ve got this thinking wrong? What if, beneath the surface there is a coping web of emotions and experiences driving their behaviour, a desperate attempt to take back control of their…